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Accepting, letting go, 'let it be'?<\/h2>\n

We often hear it, we often read it, and in general, it's considered sensible: advice like \"let it go\", \"accept it\" or \"let it be\". We get them from teachers, gurus, philosophers, priests, and therapists, but also from friends and family. The advice is clear, we understand what is meant, but is it useful to us? How helpful is it in the face of grief over loss, or during times of inhumane developments by power institutions?<\/p>\n

What's our initial inner response when we hear advice like 'let it go'? Is it one of \"yes, you're absolutely right\"? Or is it more like \"wait a minute, it's easy for you to say\", or \"don't you see what's going on?\", or other words that come to mind because we're struggling with a situation. If we feel resistance, or sorrow, or confusion, or anger, there's a reason for it. And if we can see and understand that reason, it becomes logical.<\/p>\n

A feeling of sorrow is completely understandable, for we experience loss, usually of something dear. Loss is 'permitted' in our society, yet most people still apologize when they shed tears. Resistance arises when we experience some kind of injustice. This can be accompanied by feelings of frustration or anger. We feel that the situation around us does not align with our idea or sense of 'rightness'. Or we feel we're not being treated fairly. We would like to see that changed. However, we don't always have control over this and will have to deal with such circumstances from a place of inner peace. Often, the driving force behind the intention to resist is some old conditioning or memory within us, triggered because the situation evokes something 'old'. Then we might react with a kind of emotional allergy, which doesn't help
us to stay clear-headed. In that case, we need to perceive more than just the situation itself. We need to observe within ourselves.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>

I have the calm to accept what I cannot change<\/span>
I have the strength to bear what I must carry<\/span>
I have the courage to change what I can<\/em> change<\/span>
I have the insight and wisdom to see the difference<\/span>
Freely adapted from the Serenity Prayer<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>

Acceptance (head)<\/h3>\n

Firstly, accepting<\/em> the situation can be beneficial. It brings some peace. However, understand that this is a philosophical decision made by our mind, from our Rational Center. It might give temporary relief, but it doesn't last. The trigger and the root cause don't dissolve. To find lasting resolution, we must examine our discomfort or dissatisfaction, even as we accept, to uncover its true cause. Often, the trigger is different from the root cause. Triggers invoke 'old feelings', making the true cause felt in our gut or heart. It's like a subtle emotional jab. Observing this feeling with a quiet mind helps us recognize how (old) pain or needs push us toward sadness or resistance, consistently in similar situations. Our higher discernment (Buddhi<\/em><\/span><\/span>) is very capable of bringing us clear understanding when we silently Observe. Without moving our body or mind. The first thing that emerges is a kind of peace and resignation, simply by 'seeing' the situation and our reaction to it for what they truly are.<\/p>\n

Acceptance from Reason.<\/p>\n